Resilience and Fairy Dust.

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I have to share a lesson I learned from my two and three quarter year old daughter about being resilient. Tales from the Beehive is not supposed to be a gushy mummy blog.  Bees On Skis is there for that.  But this is the lesson anyway….

I am bold, but yet completely afraid of rejection.  Paradox, I know, but we established all that at the beginning…I am a mad mix of everything opposite.

This is what has kept me away from writing for so long.  This fear has kept me from sharing anything at all (except blog posts!) with anyone.  I don’t know why I am like this.  The people around me in my life now are the most supportive and encouraging, and yet, I still can’t find the courage to just release my words to someone who will judge them.

My daughter.  She is resilient.  I am in awe of this aspect of her personality.

The other day, she walked up to a little boy at a party and told him (with her gorgeous smile), “Hello.  Do you want to be my friend?  I can be your friend, if you like.”  No fear that this little boy was going to reject her at all.  No shyness or worry.  No nothing.  Just a pure offering of herself in friendship because she really believes that she is a good friend.  I can’t even do that at thirty three years old!

Another day, she said to me after nursery, “Mamma, we have to see Nicholas soon.  I really think he is missing me.”  She just assumes her importance in the world and her importance to people and I think it is something to learn from.  She values herself and what she has to give to herself, her friends and her family.

I know this is all innocent toddler talk, but there is something in it that I have forgotten along the way.  I would like to learn again the resilience I have tried to nurture in her.

And also, she thinks she is magic when she wears her fairy wings.

Maybe I need a pair of my own…..

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9 thoughts on “Resilience and Fairy Dust.

  1. Oh girl – so beautifully written! If I lived down the street from you I’d be at your front door right now holding a pair of fairy wings for you (and one for me because the magic of fairies is always better shared with a friend)!

    We all have the magic inside – we adults just hide it away under all the boring grown-up stuff! Sometimes it just takes a little longer to dig it out again.

  2. Maybe we all start off with a pair of fairy wings, and the key is to keep them free from coats, jackets and other things which hide our wings.

    • Yes! There is an amazing book about this idea of some people having wings that I like to read with the kids at school. It’s called Skelig. Love the idea!

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